ANXIETYS BITCH BLOG
My favourite word has always been NO. Occasionally NOPE. Maybe runs a close third. The beast loves to keep me inside my walls, alone and unsociable Lately, I have been pushing those words out of my head as if they were in a cartoon bubble. I am learning the fabulous word, YES! The more I say YES, the more I enjoy life and the people in it. Fear still trickles along beside that word but I am slapping the beast hard these days. I want to live a happier fuller life and I am tired of the loneliness that the beast pushed me into. I want light in my life as the darkness no longer feels protective, it now feels suffocating.
Practice saying yes. Say yes to all the crazy turns and curveballs in your life, the good, the bad the big and the small. Say yes to your past, your present and mostly your future. Say yes to your choice of why you are leaving your comfort zone or home. Yes to someplace new and yes to an adventure, even if it only entails the grocery store.
Whatever arises in your mind. say yes. Say yes to sensations. feelings, images, thoughts, desires, and memories. Just keep saying yes except to over excessive online shopping, maybe say not now and leave it in the online cart! Say yes to all the people in your life, again maybe not all the salespeople. Say yes to your child and surprise the shit out of them.
Say yes by using different tones of your voice, out loud or in your mind, and who cares if someone gives you an odd look in the street for yelling yes as you walk by. Just wink and let them think about that. Try a loud enthusiastic yes, a soft yes, a rueful yes, even a cautious yes. Feel that yes in your body right down to your toes. Breathing in feeling positive about something and then breathing out say yes. Breathe in happy serene energy and then breath out yes. Breathe in the calm and breathe out yes. Do this repeatedly until it is natural to you.
Say yes to you and your needs. Yes to more exercise, less anger more love. Yes to being alive, to each day to each year. Yes to life. Think of a scenario and say yes to it in your mind. Suddenly you begin to notice you are saying yes to all the things that you said no to before in life. For every breath, every heartbeat, say yes.
I want to be flooded with euphoria like sensations not the dreary sadness of the beast offers. I crave the confidence that independence from the beast, has to offer me. I want to spread my wings and fly. So say yes over and over again until you forget how to say no. Live the life you deserve not the one that puts you in the shadows.
YES HELL YES!
The fresh crisp smell of the September air is one of my favourite type of mornings. You feel the sunshine warm your face slightly but the cool breeze makes you happy you wore that sweater. Unfortunately, not everyone agrees with me. The transition into fall will be a tough time for those especially those her favourite months are the warm weathered ones. If you are a parent, your kids are now back to school, which should make any normal egg hatcher ecstatic! Some of you don't have teenagers, don't worry you will get my humour soon enough. At work, meetings may now be more prevalent as vacation is over. Your agenda is once again overflowing with events that you have no idea how you'll fit them all in. You will now remember all those things on your checklist of summer fun and feel the anguish of those you did not check off. You start to notice that it is darker in the morning and gets darker after dinner. The end of summer blues will now really start to set in.
Many who fight the beast struggle with a times up mentality concerning with all the plans they had for the season. I find myself getting anxious with the shoulda, coulda, but didn't thoughts. That dearth of time mentality can lead you down the path to the blues. Altering your thoughts to plans and ideas for finishing the year in the most achievable positive way may help you think in terms of prosperity instead. If you can't think of other great things that you did so far this year, plan to do something and DO IT!
Remember that without the change in the seasons you would be bored or complacent with the humidity and heat of the summer months. Think of it as a period of colder weather that will give you a renewed appreciation for the warmth of the hot months. Friends always talk about how sad they are to see summer leave and this will add to your despair at the arrival of Autumn. I like to think of the beginning of September as a new fresh start. I tend to "check in" with myself again. I think about my health, both mental and physical. I also clean sweep my home. Out with old. In with the new. Just like with Spring cleaning, I do Fall sweeping!
While the effects of seasonal changes on our mental health can be profound you should not allow them to invite the beast in . Changes coexist the shifting of seasons such as the length of daylight, the intensity of the sun, out diet, our routine and our sleeping patterns. Even how we spend our time changes. When late Autumn turns into the cold winter or as many of friends call it, hell, it is very common for you to feel tired, depleted and very unmotivated. Your levels of anxiety will most likely increase because of these changes will create unsettled feelings. If you are really unfortunate, symptoms of depression will increase or start, if you have not had it previously.
There is an actual name for these symptoms, called seasonal affective disorder (SAD). Even the abbreviation is "sad". If you feel yourself slipping down the road of SAD, try these following tip to help heighten mental health with the changing seasons.:
* A new routine that you create which helps you appreciate things despite the early darkness in the sky, (crafts, reading, board games etc)
* Take brief or long walks throughout the day to stay in movement and use the stairs, stretch etc. to keep energy levels constant.
* Depending on your caffeine tolerance, stock up on a variety of coffees or flavored teas or even hot chocolate. The warmth of a hot mug is like a hug!
* As always, with anxiety levels on the rise, be careful of what foods that you consume. Remember that your diet affects mental health.
* The absolute best thing to do is to find what you love about the season and be intentional about incorporating that into your world. If you love to skate, do it! Find an indoor rink to skate around. If you like to watch hockey, go to a game instead of watching it on the television. Hell, if you just like to drink by the fire, do it. If you don't have a fireplace, put the fake one on your television and fake until you make it!
Regardless if you love to be outside walking with the sounds of crinkled leaves that have fallen from the trees as if you say goodbye to summer and pave the path for winter, or you hate it, embrace life. We are only here on this round planet for a bleep in time, so enjoy it, force yourself. Just don't let the beast win every battle as you are a warrior.
**** the above picture of hot chocolate is one my daughter made and it was as good as you think it was!